11 Steps to Enhance Memory and Recall

1. Establish rapport and ecology for working together. Calebrate Explorer for visual memory access processing.

2. Explain and demonstrate Explorer's current external dominant eye. Forcus on an image across the room, point on the image, close one eye- if picture stays the same, then the open eye is your dominant eye. If the image shifts away , the other eye is your dominant eye. This step shows that there is a difference in eye dominance and will assist in determining the internal dominant eye for Hemispheric Memory Strategy.

3. Have Explorer choose a word (noun) that is easy to spell and that they already know. We will use the example "cat." The step is to learn the process and to create success.

4. Have the Explorer get a visual image of a cat using their left internal eye, and put this image in their visual recall field. Usually located up and to the Explorer's left with visual accessing.

5. Say to Explorer, "Now allow that visual representation of a cat to remain here (Gesture to hold the image in the visual recall field) as you shift to your right internal eye, and in a way that works for you, build in the letters 'c-a-t.' Now you are seeing the word 'cat' along with the picture of what a cat looks like."

6. Next, have the Explorer choose a word they would like to be able to spell.

7. Build a visual representation of what the word means, focusing through the left eye. Build the letters for the word focusing through the right eye. (Remember to chunk the word into small enough pieces, if needed).

8. Repeat Steps 5 and 6 using an image of a person with their telephone number in the image.

9. Test the Explorer's memory of the easy word; the word they chose; and the person with their telephone number.

10. Discuss with the Exploredr when and where this process will be useful in their life to remember important facts, names and information.

11. Practice, practice, practice! :)

How to tell what Side of the Brain is being used

Ultradian Rhythm for Face Lateralization

The Ultradian Rhythm of moving from one hemisphere to the other, as seen in a person's face lateraliation, occurs naturally about every 90 minutes. By being able to calibrate the face, this will indicate which side of the brain a person is processing in more dominantly in that moment. This is useful to notice as a communicator. Since the processing filters of the two hemispheres are quite different, you ability to have this knowledge will help you to be most respectful of a person's style of thinking and to present information and influence in their mode.

The side of the face that has the most space between the eye and mouth, has the widest opening eye and lifted eyebrow and is most relaxed, is open to receiving information from the outside world more dominantly, which activates the opposite hemisphere for processing.

Left lifted face and mouth suggests right hemisphere dominance at that moment in time.

The side of the face that is more tense, the eye opening is narrowed slightly, and the space between corner of mouth and edge of eye is slightly contracted indicates that this is the same side of the brain the person is more dominantly thinking in at the moment.

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Reactive to Proactive

How people keep themselves from getting what they want:

B.A.W.L.

Reactive, powerless behavior and attitudes:

Blaming- "It's not my fault." "I take no responsibility here." "They did it."

Avoiding- Denial or "Forget it!" "I'll do it when or after..." Addictive behaviors are included.

Whining-Repetitve complaining with no move to resolution. "Woe is me..."

Labeling- Judgement; Right/Wrong; Good/Bad. "It has to be perfect, now."

A.B.C.D.

Action- Move to PROACTIVE thinking and taking action controllable by self.

Boundaries- Speaking your truth. Set firm boundaries which allow you to move throughout the world with safety.

Current Reality- Stay in the present. Create internal guidelines that are appropriate for you and that lead you to your goals. Release limiting past beliefs and generalizations that are no longer useful or true.

Determination- Take charge and focus to make changes within yourself that lead to the results you want. Keep going until you come to resolution, understanding or a willingness to move on.

Traditional Grief Model vs. The Natural Sequence

Traditional Stage - Perceptions and Limitaions

Shock/Denial- Deer in the headlights, dissociated, and/or reactive. Refusal to accept facts as reality.

Bargaining- Position of lesser authority. Perception of begging. Wishing something negative didn't happen or that something positive did happen.

Anger- Show of dominance, aggression, and/or revenge. Tactical response to frustration and confusion. Sometimes appropriate, often not.

Fear- Dread, trepidation, and/or uncertainty. Anticipation of worst case scenarios. Debilitating when approached reactively.

Guilt- Tool of manipulation and/or external authority. Method of emotional control highlighted by unfounded rules and secondary gain.

Depression- Hopeless, helpless, and/or worthlessness. Thoughts directed inward as if being defeated. Limited motivation toward the future.

Acceptance- Surrender to the inevitable and/or acquiescence. Often interpreted as recognition of current reality. Illusion of completing the grief process.

Other Possible Phases

Phase - Natural Purpose

Anger- A natural physiological response to a violation of personal values, and to immediate or imminent threats to the physical safety of self and others.

Fear- A physiological response to possible violations of personal values, or possible threats to the physical safety of self and others in the future.

Negotiation- A proactive attempt to avoid or limit additional damage beyond that which has already been done following a trauma or loss.

Basic Natural Sequence

Phase - Natural Purpose

Event- Any occurrence that has an emotional or physical impact on a person, either directly or passively.

Attention- The natural reponse that alerts a person to any relevant change in the environment. Point of conscious awareness. No conclusion is made.

Authentication- This serves as a relevancy challenge to check for fraud, confusion, or misunderstandings about the facts surrounding an event.

Introspection- A person's internal evaluation of an event for which they ask, "How does this event affect me in body, mind, and spirit, now and in the future?"

Understanding- Understanding the physical, emotional, and spiritual cause and effect scenarios of an event. This signals the completion of the grief process.

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Natural Grief Processing for All Trauma and Loss

By Al and Marilyn Sargent

Feeling sadness is appropriate when a valuable connection is lost. Experiencing guilt, anger, depression and blame are not a necessary part of the natural grief process. In this workshop you will learn a natural step-by-step pathway to lead you back into a balanced life after a trauma or loss, while having the authentic emotions appropriate for the levels of change you are experiencing.

The intensity of a grief process depends on the depth of our connection to that which has been lost and our ability to process through the experience proactively. Whether the loss is a loved one, a job, a dream, or even a fountain pen, the structure of the grieving process is the same in all situations.

Natural Grief Processing for All Trauma and Loss Events:

1. Event An event happens - there is a change.

2. Attention We become aware of the event or change.

3. Authentication We check out the facts to verify what is actually true.

4. Introspection We turn our thoughts inside, into Introspection, to process

how this event has impacted our life, to decide how to best

move on with our life.

5. Understanding We regain a sense of personal balance and begin to adjust

to life as it is now.

The key to recovering from a grief event is Moving Through Grief with Grace and Dignity, the Way Nature Intended by living a life of balance and connectedness. Discover how to build a legacy that is uniquely your own, help others who are “stuck” in cultural misconceptions and traditional rules, plus develop your inner wisdom and congruency for your life. The human brain provides the answers when we know what questions to ask.

Overcoming Public Speaking

Al and I had a great experience this weekend. Our niece, Tamra Carter, has been in a competition to start her own business for the past nine months. During that competition she expirenced having to overcome limiting beliefs, self sabotage, and fear. She came to us several times throughout the process to work through some of those issues and we shared with her some of our processes that we use to help others to overcome those same issues.

With those processes and her determination to implement them in her life, Tamra shared with us that she felt more confident than before. She continued on with the competition and became one of the top five finalists! As one of the top five finalists the demands on her time, energy, and skills became quite overwhelming as she realized she had even more fears to overcome. It was at that time that Tamra advised us that she wanted to do the last part of the competition mostly on her own, as she knew it would boost her confidence and help her learn self-reliance.

The last month of the competition we watched from afar as Tamra handled every situation in her own way and succeeded to all she put her mind to. Including overcoming one of her biggest fears of overcoming public speaking, which is the most common fear, outranking even death! In order for her to overcome her fear of public speaking she used several of our processes such as;
Creating a Compelling Self-Image
Circle of Excellence
Sargent Phobia Release Process
and more.

She was so excited when she called us the Sunday after the competition to report that not only did she win the competition and a grand prize of $40,000 towards her business, she also gained self confidence and overcame her fear of public speaking. She went on to tell us that she now feels confident that whenever she runs into a situation she now has the tools and the support to overcome obstacles.

Congratulations Tamra and thank you for honoring yourself by finding processes that work for you!

-Al and Marilyn Sargent
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The Gateway to the Hidden Treasures of Your Mind

By Allen Sargent

Think of how often we have heard the phrase "I see it in my mind's eye." Imagine how many possibilities will be opened up by understanding your "other mind's eye." When we recall an event with the right hemisphere's "mind's eye" our response will be very different than if we recall it with the left hemisphere's "mind's eye." Each hemisphere of the brain records and recalls useful information. If we consistently utilize the perceptions from only one side of our brain, our choices are limited, often leaving personal issues unresolved. "I have half a mind to..." is another phrase we often hear people use. If this is descriptive of what is actually happening in our thinking process, we may literally be using only half of our potential.

Learning how to have conscious control of which hemispheric image to utilize broadens the range of choices and responses available to us. Additional benefits result from being able to integrate information from both hemispheres when dealing with an issue.