How people keep themselves from getting what they want:
B.A.W.L.
Reactive, powerless behavior and attitudes:
Blaming- "It's not my fault." "I take no responsibility here." "They did it."
Avoiding- Denial or "Forget it!" "I'll do it when or after..." Addictive behaviors are included.
Whining-Repetitve complaining with no move to resolution. "Woe is me..."
Labeling- Judgement; Right/Wrong; Good/Bad. "It has to be perfect, now."
A.B.C.D.
Action- Move to PROACTIVE thinking and taking action controllable by self.
Boundaries- Speaking your truth. Set firm boundaries which allow you to move throughout the world with safety.
Current Reality- Stay in the present. Create internal guidelines that are appropriate for you and that lead you to your goals. Release limiting past beliefs and generalizations that are no longer useful or true.
Determination- Take charge and focus to make changes within yourself that lead to the results you want. Keep going until you come to resolution, understanding or a willingness to move on.
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