Traditional Stage - Perceptions and Limitaions
Shock/Denial- Deer in the headlights, dissociated, and/or reactive. Refusal to accept facts as reality.
Bargaining- Position of lesser authority. Perception of begging. Wishing something negative didn't happen or that something positive did happen.
Anger- Show of dominance, aggression, and/or revenge. Tactical response to frustration and confusion. Sometimes appropriate, often not.
Fear- Dread, trepidation, and/or uncertainty. Anticipation of worst case scenarios. Debilitating when approached reactively.
Guilt- Tool of manipulation and/or external authority. Method of emotional control highlighted by unfounded rules and secondary gain.
Depression- Hopeless, helpless, and/or worthlessness. Thoughts directed inward as if being defeated. Limited motivation toward the future.
Acceptance- Surrender to the inevitable and/or acquiescence. Often interpreted as recognition of current reality. Illusion of completing the grief process.
Other Possible Phases
Phase - Natural Purpose
Anger- A natural physiological response to a violation of personal values, and to immediate or imminent threats to the physical safety of self and others.
Fear- A physiological response to possible violations of personal values, or possible threats to the physical safety of self and others in the future.
Negotiation- A proactive attempt to avoid or limit additional damage beyond that which has already been done following a trauma or loss.
Basic Natural Sequence
Phase - Natural Purpose
Event- Any occurrence that has an emotional or physical impact on a person, either directly or passively.
Attention- The natural reponse that alerts a person to any relevant change in the environment. Point of conscious awareness. No conclusion is made.
Authentication- This serves as a relevancy challenge to check for fraud, confusion, or misunderstandings about the facts surrounding an event.
Introspection- A person's internal evaluation of an event for which they ask, "How does this event affect me in body, mind, and spirit, now and in the future?"
Understanding- Understanding the physical, emotional, and spiritual cause and effect scenarios of an event. This signals the completion of the grief process.
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